False. Of
course, our favorite website that doesn’t pay writers, Huffington Post, published this piece. Also, let’s back up a second
to point out this guy is probably a kid, and I don’t mean to figuratively eviscerate
him for cheap laughs, though there will be laughs. Secondly, let me say that theory
is theory and thus always changing, and there is nothing wrong with being wrong
and changing your mind, in fact it may be indicative of a person of strong mind
and character or even moving theory forward.
Gregor Smith, a student and blogger, wrote a piece entitled, “Feminism
isn’t for men too—In fact, it’s not for women either” as an attempt to
counter Jack Fletcher’s post entitled, “Feminism is for men too.” I skimmed
Fletcher’s post, and it is fairly innocuous, specifically addressing some of
the problems the UK with women as a whole and the feminist attempts to improve the
quality of life for everyone i.e. “lad cultures” detrimental effects on society
at large and the real immediate dangers to women.
Smith took
his time to explain how not agreeing with feminism does not make you a
misogynist. To the dictionary (note the restraint of not using the Urban Online
Dictionary):
Feminism as
defined by Merriam-Webster: “the belief that men and women should have equal
rights and opportunities; organized activity in support of women’s rights and
interests.”
Misogyny as
defined by Merriam-Webster: “a hatred of women.” Fun fact according to their
site, misogyny is in the top1% if all lookups on the Merriam-Webster site.
I like to
make sure we all know the meaning of the words we’re using. Now, there are
colloquial means for both of these words. Also, feminism because the “personal
is political” theory out of the second wave resulted in a lot of people
deciding that their beliefs were feminism, when their beliefs might be inspired
by feminist actions, but not actually feminism. For example, a heterosexual
couple coming to the conclusion the man should stay at home with their children
based on what works for their family isn’t feminism. It is a feminist response,
but there is not right or opportunity being questioned. However, if we lived in
a society where women were forced to be the primary caregivers within the
family then this action might be feminism. See the difference? Also before when women were actively paid less and often let go when they became mothers because husbands were supposed to be breadwinners, there is a feminist action there. A political act
vs. a personal act influenced by the political.
So armed
with these definitions let’s look at Smith’s post, and question what he knows
about feminism. Smith begins, “Sadly, he [Fletcher] seems to have bought into
the main one [misconceptions about feminism]” ‘feminism is about gender
equality.’ Anyone who has ever talked to a feminism for any length of time will
know that this is not true. Feminism consistently sees the world from the
perspective of women, and occasionally adding the phrase ‘and men have problems
too’ in order to create a smokescreen of gender equality.”
Smith then
goes on to note the definition of feminism and matriarchy. However, his
evidence for his assertion that feminism has gone far off the mark is Tumblr.
He has some screen shots of what happens when you put “men are” in the “biggest
feminist network” (I’m not clear if he’s referring to Tumblr or if a specific
site on Tumblr…I’m old, how does Tumblr work?). My assumption is Smith saw the UN Campaign
with the google searches about women. I also googled men the same way the UN
Campaign did for women and one of the search results is “men are better than
women” so there’s that. Smith includes two screen shots from Tumblr when
searching for “men are” and “men are” with in the context of appearance.
Presumably, to note that men are held to standards of attractiveness. [Aside,
this is particularly interesting to me after my Twitter feed blow up this week
with the standards of white beauty on people of color, but race isn't mentioned by Smith.]
Here is
where things get pretty troubling: “The patriarchy (a mythical hierarchy used
by feminists to blame their problems on when they can’t find the actual case)
seems to have let that one slip by them.” Well, I’m glad we’re keeping things
civil. First, the patriarchy
is really a theory, which places men and all things male at the center and
all else on the outside. Contemporary theories suggest that the patriarchy
shows up over and over again encouraging male dominance and the exclusion of
women. This is very interesting when looking at capitalism as a patriarchal
model. Read about it here. This
theory is kind on par with evolution meaning it is pretty readily accepted by
everyone in the social sciences: women’s studies, sociology, psychology, social
work, etc. His complete dismissal of it demonstrates his lack of interest and
knowledge of the subject.
Next Smith
targets male feminists, which makes since in a way, since men seem to be the
point of his argument on feminism (?). He even criticizes a woman who put together a list of
ways men who consider themselves feminists can be better allies. I’ve read that
piece in the past, it isn’t perfect, but it would work in just about any
context for an ally changing words like women to gays or people of color, etc.
Of course, we’re almost to Smith’s real issue: blame. Smith, I feel for you if
you felt personally attacked by someone calling themselves a feminist for
something you didn’t do, and I’m sorry you benefit from rape culture, white
male privilege, and a host of other privileges. Because perhaps if you didn’t
you’d have the ability to empathize with people unlike yourself particularly those with less power.
Smith
feels victimized by feminism in some way, which can be seen in his concern with
being able to defend himself from accusations he feels feminism makes. These
include (again, all links to individual
people’s statements): "thinking a home invite is sexual consent, being rape apologists,
setting women as nothing more than vagina, having perfectly fitted shirts,
always sending women creepy messages, soap insecurity, cowardice, wanting to
hit women, recruiting young vulnerable women, dominance, disregarding
boundaries, being glorified, having some internalized poisonous ideas,
consistently taking inappropriate photos, being the patriarchy, snatching away
things women love and s**tting on them, being rapists, being child molesters,
and “backfiring hurf durf buzzwords”."
Here he
declares feminism hypocritical. However, after reading and typing all of those,
I want to point a few things out. Privilege (a word Smith doesn’t use) means
benefiting in situations even when you don’t necessarily realize it. You have
to acknowledge it and more on. Use your privilege in a positive way. Also, a
lot of these generalizations, aren’t feminism they are what feminism is trying
to do away with. For example all men are not rapists. However, every time we (as
a society) tell women not to drink or they will be raped, we (as a society) are
saying all men are rapists. That is rape culture. It hurts everyone. That can
be said for most of these examples, but by this point it should be clear Smith
isn’t interested in a discussion about feminism, even the problems in feminism:
the exclusion of women of color, trans, poor, etc. We’re getting better, but
there is a long road.
Smith
continues by showing polling data from YouGov, which is a public polling site.
He points out most Brits do not claim they are feminism, but 81% believe men
and women should be equal in society. He uses this to draw this conclusion, “This
shows that most people are, on the whole, both egalitarian and anti-feminist.
Why, then, are feminists given such an overly prominent position in the media?”
Sorry, I
laughed out loud at that one…say it again white male student with a post on the
Huffington Post, which has not one, but two posts about feminism from white men. Smith is confusing in this section because he seems to equate
feminist representation with female representation (aside, trans people
please). Then he throws in Femem and No More Page Three. Smith concludes by
suggesting feminism is to be left behind and move forward with humanism.
That link takes you to a post I wrote on the attempts of people to run away
from the word feminism and hide behind humanism, and its shortcomings. Here is
Smith’s text before I shut this shit down for good:
“I propose
to you: humanism. The idea that we should care for and respect one another
equally because we are all human has been around for centuries [when women and
people of color weren’t considered human], long before feminism burst onto the
scene and chained itself to the scene’s railing while trying to set itself on
fire [interesting reference to self immolation]. There’s nothing misleading
about this term humanism in the same way that there is about feminism. It doesn’t
just try to break down the barrier between the genders [more than a binary
there Smith], but more importantly, the barrier between races, sexualities,
social classes, and religions, which in their own ways are also some of the
reasons total gender equality has not yet been reached [finally mentioned
that].
“Will
humanism ‘catch on’ with current feminists? I doubt it. Most feminists aren’t
feminists because they care about other people in the world; they’re feminists
born out of anger and/or hatred, often felt due to a personal experience, but that
doesn’t justify taking out that anger and hatred on others. [I bolded this
because I believe this is what Smith is doing.] I can hope, though, in my more
optimistic moments. At least I have put ideas out there, and let people know
that feminism isn’t for men too, and it’s not good for women either.”
I think you only really need to read that conclusion. First, humanism as it is
used now means very close to what feminism means, but as I noted in Smith’s
text, that wasn’t always the case. In fact it is easy to argue for humanism
when most of the population isn’t considered human. Do we have to break out and
dust off Social Darwinism here?
The problem people have with feminism, the word and otherwise, is that
is suggests women should be in the center too. After all if feminism and
humanism mean the same things at their root (which they don’t because humanism
has a nasty individualist history that lends itself to capitalism) then why not
take back the word feminism? Because feme is the root of the word? Can’t have
the menfolk perceive they are excluded, which they aren't? That is what scares people about feminism, women
can be in charge of a movement, women can hold representative office, women can
be in the public sphere, women can control their healthcare decisions, women
can do everything men can do. Note, I’m not saying better, just saying we can. So,
riddle me this, if as a man, you do not have issues with women and you believe
all the genders and nongenders are equal, then why not call yourself a
feminist?
As I said
in the beginning, Smith is a kid. He’s going to write stupid stuff, he’ll
hopefully grow to reject. I did. I think some of it is still on this blog,
about anti-trafficking and equating all prostitution with trafficking, which it
isn’t. At the end of the day, Smith, like tons of other people, are afraid of
having their power challenged, and he targets his rage on feminism, while
others join racist groups. All his “research” [feel the air quotes] could be replicated
with far more damn results on Redditt looking for women and women’s issues, and
you will find hate like most people have never seen. That said, Huffington Post should be taken to task for giving publishing this.