I
wanted to say something about SCOTUS hearing marriage equality cases, but
before I do: I am a CIS, straight, white, college educated, woman. I want to
state all of that as an indicator that while I’m an ally, I not a direct part
of the LGBTQ community. So, my opinion is rooted firmly in academic knowledge
and allies. Also, I’m in favor of marriage equality, well as in favor of
marriage as I can get.
I
have my fingers-crossed like most of the US that SCOTUS overturns Prop 8 and
DOMA. However, I don’t really want to talk about marriage because queer
equality isn’t just the right to marry, which seems to be getting lost
somewhere in the emphasis on Prop 8 on Tuesday. A good part of the gay rights
movement revolved around developing a cultural alternative to stratightness.
Also, mainstream America’s embrace of gay marriage puts me in mind of that “as
long as you’re trying to be like us, we’re cool, but don’t get all f***y here.”
What about queer open relationships? Or straight for that matter? Will
individuals within these groups be protected? Probably not. Because deep down
Americans are ok with people who are trying really hard to be like them, but
shun our way of thinking and we’ll strip you of rights, well as fast as we can
throw you in Gtimo.
But
even if we’re going to stay solely in the realm of LGBTQ issues, didn’t
Tennessee just outlaw acknowledging the existence of gay people in the
classroom? How about labor protections so you can’t get fired for coming out? As
Justice Kennedy pointed out, think of the children, who don’t qualify for TANF
because of the required paternity declaration. What about the mothers who don’t
want to declare paternity because the child is actually being raised by two
women, and the father has no responsibility? Oh, yeah, we get all sexist and anti-gay up in TANF policy.
All,
I’m saying is I’d like to see some of this support on the other issues
surrounding LGBTQ individuals and their community outside of marriage. Oh by
the way, HRC was kind of anti-trans for a long time. A lot of the mainstream
LGB community were for a long time. Though, most have come around and/or trying
to.
But
at the end of the day, this is how we coalition build. We work with people who
might have a less than desirable history, but are trying to get better, on an
issue of their choosing, and then we get our turn. Because discrimination and
oppression hurts everyone regardless if the specific type of discrimination we’re talking about doesn’t
affect you. So yeah, today gay marriage, and tomorrow let’s take the Arizona
ban on sex separated bathrooms, which eliminates space for trans individuals.
And hell, Thursday let’s open up another abortion clinic in North Dakota,
someone said they are trying really hard to close the one they have.