Lily
Allen, shut the fuck up. Look a blog post in a sentence.
Allen is
that girl who wants all the benefits of being the “cool girl” within the
patriarchy. This really just means she gets to be the exception, talk about how
we’ve achieved equality, while making racist shallow pro equality anthems. The
piece on her for the ShortList
demonstrates that.
Some of
the lowlights:
“I’m not
an archetypal woman. All my best friends are boys.”
I’ve written
about this statement or variations of it so much! The subtext here is “I value
the opinion of men and all things masculine over women and the feminine.” This
is what happens to young women in the patriarchy; we all want to distance
ourselves from other women within the expectations set by men. So men
conversations and thoughts are prioritized over feminine one’s as long as the
woman isn’t considered a threat. I have so many examples of this, particularly
centering around my own “one of the guys” history’s interaction with
progressive feminist thought. I’m cool with the guys as long as I’m talking
football and owning at darts, but ain’t no one got time to listen to me bitch
about rape culture during beer pong. You’re not in, you’re not one of the boys,
you’re still a cis woman, and you will be treated as such, usually when it
matters, like safety matters. You become hysterical, dramatic, and untrustworthy
pretty fast when you challenge the patriarchy even inadvertently.
“But I don’t
think men are the enemy, I think women are the enemy. I know that when I’m sitting
in a restaurant and a really beautiful woman walks in, who’s skinny, I
instinctively think, ‘Oh she’s really skinny and beautiful and I’m really fat
and ugly.’ Every man I speak to always say they find that kind of woman gross,
and they prefer a bit more meat on their ladies. So it’s more of a competitive
thing. It’s weird. It’s just really unhealthy and we’re our own worst enemy. We
should stop being so horrible to each other.”
So to
summarize, men aren’t competitive at all. Judging other women harshly totally
isn’t a manifestation of the patriarchy, and it’s ok anyway because men prefer
women who look like her so she wins regarding the male gaze. This reaction to
other women isn’t instinctual; it is a conditioned response.
“Feminism.
I hate that word because it shouldn’t even be a thing any more. We’re all
equal, everyone is equal so why is there even a conversation about feminism?
What’s the man version of feminism? There isn’t even a word for it. There’s no
reason for it. Menanism. Male-ism. It doesn’t exist.”
But Allen,
there are so many words for the men’s version of feminism, starting with
patriarchy, men’s rights, rape culture. Should I go on?
I probably
should have begun with the statement, women, men, and other genders aren’t
equal. Allen is reinforcing the gender binary and conflates gender and
biological sex because she doesn’t know any better, nor does she know shit
about feminism. Additionally, equality probably isn’t ever going to be a thing
because as a society we refuse to give up social constructs like race and
gender. As a result the expectation has to shift to equity. Allen going say
things are equitable? Probably not, it would be hard (out there) given the
economic divide that is so influenced by race, gender, and obviously class. *side
eye*
I’m using Allen as an example here, but I’m really over
famous people claiming to be above things when they are clearly engaging in the
same petty politicking. Allen’s video for “Hard Out Here” mocks Miley Cyrus,
because women need to stop being mean to other women. All the while this video
using black women’s bodies the same way Cyrus has been. Both are examples of
racism, classism, and sexism as sanctioned by the patriarchy.
Allen comes off as ignorant and a Men’s Rights Activists
in training. Feminism is about gender equity and equality. It isn’t about women’s
superiority or domination of men. People who promote these sort of thinking are
fearful of losing their privilege. They view power as a zero sum game where in
order for some to advance others must retreat. This isn’t true.